Self-confidence Formula

1. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Define Purpose in life. Therefore I demand of myself persistent, continuous action towards its attainment, and I here and now promise to take such action.

2. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action and gradually transform themselves into physical reality. Therefore I will concentrate my thoughts for 30 minutes daily upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture fo that person.

3. I know through the principle of autosuggestion that any desire I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object. Therefore I will devote 10 minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self-confidence.

4. I have clearly written down a description of my Definite Chief Aim in life. I will never stop trying until I have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.

5. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice. Therefore I will engage in no transaction that does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude towards others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself. I will sign my name to this formula, and commit it to memory and repeat it aloud once a day, with full faith that it will gradually influence my thoughts and actions so that I will become a self-reliant and successful person.

 

This post is extracted from “Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill p53”

5 Mindsets for Living to the Fullest

This post is a note from a video on 5 Hard Lessons You Need to Learn Before 30. I’m not sure why the magic number 30 is there since everyone’s age span varies a bit differently, but anyways, here are the five lessons:

1. There may not be a tomorrow, so enjoy/do it now.

  • Think about what would be the things that you would regret not do if tomorrow were your last day.
  • Your time is limited and you don’t have forever, so do what you want to and do what you enjoy right now.

2. You’ve got nothing to lose, but everything to gain.

  • Give it your all. You are born to win, so do what winners do

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Three ways to get comfortable with success – Dan Lok

  1. Be comfortable with uncomfortable consistently:
    • Act and behave like the rich (or whatever your model is) that give you rich mindset
    • E.g. Take business class instead of economic when going on business trips for boosting confidence
    • E.g. Eat at a higher end restaurant every now and then to taste what your next level would be like
    • Note to self: Need a change of commute to work
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  2. Emotional Intensity: Get by your first success.
    • First time is the scariest, but after that, it’ll just be cool
    • Try as many things as you can so you can experience the first as many times as possible so you can get used to overcoming first-time fears. However, you have to make sure you reach the level of success of the activity you chose. Reaching success is a change of state which is something that needs to get used to
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  3. Get a mentor
    • Having someone who believes you more than yourself to push you go further, harder, faster
    • Maybe some apps from Android can help.. Mentor-bots maybe. I mean, there are already apps out there where some anime girl is watching over you to do push up, sit up and all sort of ups. 

 

Progressive Mastery

This list is taken from Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Habits. This is basically the formula to fully master any skills.

  1. Determine a skill that you want to master
  2. Set specific stretch goals on your path to developing that skill
  3. Attach high levels of emotion and meaning to your journey and your results
  4. Identify the factors critical to success, and develop your strengths in those areas (and fix your weaknesses with equal fervor
  5. Develop visualizations that clearly imagine what success and failure look like.
  6. Schedule challenging practices developed by experts or through careful thought
  7. Measure your progress and get outside feedback
  8. Socialize your learning and efforts by practicing or competing with others
  9. Continue setting higher level goals so that you keep improving
  10. Teach others what you are learning

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Three body language tips to look more attractive

This note is taken from Charisma on Command’s 3 Body Language Tips to Instantly Look More Attractive


1. T-rex arm
The body is too stiff and not moving much. Be more expansive and expressive. Loosen the muscles a bit and do expansive gestures.

2. Seeking behaviour
Don’t look out for more interesting stuff from afar. Be engaged with whoever that’s nearby. The fun is where you’re at.

3. Step out and break the group line
I’ll just let the video explain this one since this is more than a body language and requires some courage.

4. Smile
He included this extra one in the last minute, so technically four.
 

Six Mindsets that make you more Magnetic

This note is taken from Charima on Command’s 6 Mindsets That Will Make You Magnetic (Animated). Watch it when you have a chance.


1. No Matter what, I will be okay.
Just do it! You will be fine even in the worst case scenario.

2. I care about my character than reputations
Stop caring about people’s opinion about you and just be yourself

3. Impeccable honesty and Integrity
Never ever lie! Even if nobody finds out, deep down inside YOU know you are a liar that lies sometimes.

4. You do not need to convince anyone of any particular beliefs
You never need anyone to do anything. You simply ask. If they don’t like what’s being asked, don’t try to convince them. You accept or filter them out of your life.

5. Start communicating your purpose more proactively
Find what your purpose and passion and spread it out to the world

6. Start going first
It usually signifies bravery. Be vulnerable. People always remember the first person that does it. It’s okay, no matter what, you will be okay.

How to make good first impression

You would want to build trust with other people. Make them feel that you are responsible and reliable.

Dress with purpose / Clean appearance: 
You would want to make sure that people will want to shake that hand of yours.

Body language: 

  • How you walk
  • How you handshake
  • Your eye contact
  • Hand gesture
  • Slow down, it’s okay
  • Control your insecurity

Speak confidently and professionally

  • Volume up
  • Speak slower
  • Remove filter words as they make u sound unprofessional and make people confused

Talk Positive
People just like to hang out with positive people more. I was reading something psychology related and apparently, people link every word you said to you (even when you are not talking about yourself). For example, if you say Bob said Henry is a responsible person. People will link you with responsible as well. Same goes for negatives so don’t talk bad behind people coz it will come down to you essentially. Just another mental thing.

Pay attention and listen well to the conversation 
Don’t diver the eye contact when people speak. This is something I really need to work on. I tend to dodge people’s eyes because I feel like they are going to see straight through me for some reason, but not only is this rude, it’ll make people think i am shady. Just look at them like you are going to eat them (lol jk jk)

Give appropriate compliments
This should be straight-forward. People like to hang out with others that have the same interest. By giving compliments, you basically agree and validate with their choice of style/thing/whatever. You have to make sure that the compliment is 100% sincere from the bottom of the heart though.

Be humble and give thanks
Thank everything whenever you have a chance possible. Thank people for their time. Let them know you enjoyed the conversation. I think that there’s some unspoken rule in the office that “Thanks!” is equal to “Bye” in the office. Leaving on high note i guess xD

Check out Alpha’s video. I took some notes from him, but hopefully, you’ll find this helpful too.