Three ways to get comfortable with success – Dan Lok

  1. Be comfortable with uncomfortable consistently:
    • Act and behave like the rich (or whatever your model is) that give you rich mindset
    • E.g. Take business class instead of economic when going on business trips for boosting confidence
    • E.g. Eat at a higher end restaurant every now and then to taste what your next level would be like
    • Note to self: Need a change of commute to work
  2. Emotional Intensity: Get by your first success.
    • First time is the scariest, but after that, it’ll just be cool
    • Try as many things as you can so you can experience the first as many times as possible so you can get used to overcoming first-time fears. However, you have to make sure you reach the level of success of the activity you chose. Reaching success is a change of state which is something that needs to get used to
  3. Get a mentor
    • Having someone who believes you more than yourself to push you go further, harder, faster
    • Maybe some apps from Android can help.. Mentor-bots maybe. I mean, there are already apps out there where some anime girl is watching over you to do push up, sit up and all sort of ups. 



How to Get Anything You Want

According to Tony Robbin’s Unlimited Power, the answer is as simple as one word: “Ask”.

The book provides five guidelines for asking intelligently and precisely:

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Three body language tips to look more attractive

This note is taken from Charisma on Command’s 3 Body Language Tips to Instantly Look More Attractive

1. T-rex arm
The body is too stiff and not moving much. Be more expansive and expressive. Loosen the muscles a bit and do expansive gestures.

2. Seeking behaviour
Don’t look out for more interesting stuff from afar. Be engaged with whoever that’s nearby. The fun is where you’re at.

3. Step out and break the group line
I’ll just let the video explain this one since this is more than a body language and requires some courage.

4. Smile
He included this extra one in the last minute, so technically four.

Six Mindsets that make you more Magnetic

This note is taken from Charima on Command’s 6 Mindsets That Will Make You Magnetic (Animated). Watch it when you have a chance.

1. No Matter what, I will be okay.
Just do it! You will be fine even in the worst case scenario.

2. I care about my character than reputations
Stop caring about people’s opinion about you and just be yourself

3. Impeccable honesty and Integrity
Never ever lie! Even if nobody finds out, deep down inside YOU know you are a liar that lies sometimes.

4. You do not need to convince anyone of any particular beliefs
You never need anyone to do anything. You simply ask. If they don’t like what’s being asked, don’t try to convince them. You accept or filter them out of your life.

5. Start communicating your purpose more proactively
Find what your purpose and passion and spread it out to the world

6. Start going first
It usually signifies bravery. Be vulnerable. People always remember the first person that does it. It’s okay, no matter what, you will be okay.

What size of skateboard should you get?

You only need to know that wider decks are easier to land and thinner decks are easier to flick. Generally speaking, 7.5 to 8 inches are good for beginners.

When talking about the size of skateboards, people are normally referring to the width of the deck. While there are many sites point out references in relation to the shoe size, it really comes down to personal choice.

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How to make good first impression

You would want to build trust with other people. Make them feel that you are responsible and reliable.

Dress with purpose / Clean appearance: 
You would want to make sure that people will want to shake that hand of yours.

Body language: 

  • How you walk
  • How you handshake
  • Your eye contact
  • Hand gesture
  • Slow down, it’s okay
  • Control your insecurity

Speak confidently and professionally

  • Volume up
  • Speak slower
  • Remove filter words as they make u sound unprofessional and make people confused

Talk Positive
People just like to hang out with positive people more. I was reading something psychology related and apparently, people link every word you said to you (even when you are not talking about yourself). For example, if you say Bob said Henry is a responsible person. People will link you with responsible as well. Same goes for negatives so don’t talk bad behind people coz it will come down to you essentially. Just another mental thing.

Pay attention and listen well to the conversation 
Don’t diver the eye contact when people speak. This is something I really need to work on. I tend to dodge people’s eyes because I feel like they are going to see straight through me for some reason, but not only is this rude, it’ll make people think i am shady. Just look at them like you are going to eat them (lol jk jk)

Give appropriate compliments
This should be straight-forward. People like to hang out with others that have the same interest. By giving compliments, you basically agree and validate with their choice of style/thing/whatever. You have to make sure that the compliment is 100% sincere from the bottom of the heart though.

Be humble and give thanks
Thank everything whenever you have a chance possible. Thank people for their time. Let them know you enjoyed the conversation. I think that there’s some unspoken rule in the office that “Thanks!” is equal to “Bye” in the office. Leaving on high note i guess xD

Check out Alpha’s video. I took some notes from him, but hopefully, you’ll find this helpful too.