According to Tony Robbin’s Unlimited Power, the answer is as simple as one word: “Ask”.
The book provides five guidelines for asking intelligently and precisely:
This note is taken from Charisma on Command’s 3 Body Language Tips to Instantly Look More Attractive
1. T-rex arm
The body is too stiff and not moving much. Be more expansive and expressive. Loosen the muscles a bit and do expansive gestures.
2. Seeking behaviour
Don’t look out for more interesting stuff from afar. Be engaged with whoever that’s nearby. The fun is where you’re at.
3. Step out and break the group line
I’ll just let the video explain this one since this is more than a body language and requires some courage.
He included this extra one in the last minute, so technically four.
This note is taken from Charima on Command’s 6 Mindsets That Will Make You Magnetic (Animated). Watch it when you have a chance.
1. No Matter what, I will be okay.
Just do it! You will be fine even in the worst case scenario.
2. I care about my character than reputations
Stop caring about people’s opinion about you and just be yourself
3. Impeccable honesty and Integrity
Never ever lie! Even if nobody finds out, deep down inside YOU know you are a liar that lies sometimes.
4. You do not need to convince anyone of any particular beliefs
You never need anyone to do anything. You simply ask. If they don’t like what’s being asked, don’t try to convince them. You accept or filter them out of your life.
5. Start communicating your purpose more proactively
Find what your purpose and passion and spread it out to the world
6. Start going first
It usually signifies bravery. Be vulnerable. People always remember the first person that does it. It’s okay, no matter what, you will be okay.
You should change it when your board gets too soggy if you are into tricks. Every trick that involves ollie will be impacted because it doesn’t pop as high and as smooth anymore.
Having that said, everyday use for cruising is fine as long as the board is still in one piece.
⭐ You only need to know that wider decks are easier to land and thinner decks are easier to flick. Generally speaking, 7.5 to 8 inches are good for beginners.
When talking about the size of skateboards, people are normally referring to the width of the deck. While there are many sites point out references in relation to the shoe size, it really comes down to personal choice.
You would want to build trust with other people. Make them feel that you are responsible and reliable.
Dress with purpose / Clean appearance:
You would want to make sure that people will want to shake that hand of yours.
- How you walk
- How you handshake
- Your eye contact
- Hand gesture
- Slow down, it’s okay
- Control your insecurity
Speak confidently and professionally
- Volume up
- Speak slower
- Remove filter words as they make u sound unprofessional and make people confused
People just like to hang out with positive people more. I was reading something psychology related and apparently, people link every word you said to you (even when you are not talking about yourself). For example, if you say Bob said Henry is a responsible person. People will link you with responsible as well. Same goes for negatives so don’t talk bad behind people coz it will come down to you essentially. Just another mental thing.
Pay attention and listen well to the conversation
Don’t diver the eye contact when people speak. This is something I really need to work on. I tend to dodge people’s eyes because I feel like they are going to see straight through me for some reason, but not only is this rude, it’ll make people think i am shady. Just look at them like you are going to eat them (lol jk jk)
Give appropriate compliments
This should be straight-forward. People like to hang out with others that have the same interest. By giving compliments, you basically agree and validate with their choice of style/thing/whatever. You have to make sure that the compliment is 100% sincere from the bottom of the heart though.
Be humble and give thanks
Thank everything whenever you have a chance possible. Thank people for their time. Let them know you enjoyed the conversation. I think that there’s some unspoken rule in the office that “Thanks!” is equal to “Bye” in the office. Leaving on high note i guess xD
Check out Alpha’s video. I took some notes from him, but hopefully, you’ll find this helpful too.